For unmarried couples aka still dating, certainly often dreaming and dreaming that someday he wants to have a happy and harmonious home life, and what is imagined is just the beauty of life with a partner he loves in the future. It may even not occur in their minds about problems that might be present in domestic life later. Even though in reality, there are things that will invite fights and even trivial problems. Because it is undeniable, in every household life there will be arguments and disputes that come unexpectedly, both from outside and inside.
To foster a happy household it can be said to be easy and difficult. And to reach it requires the role of the couple themselves to achieve their goals in marriage. And the problem is, after getting married and going through the household sometimes there are things that are not in line with our expectations. Like the words of people, the first 5 years of marriage are a hard start. Why is that? Didn’t you know each other before marriage? And during dating relationships are fine. The answer is because life during courtship and after marriage is different.
When dating, we already know the character of each partner. And our world is just a relationship and expressing affection for a partner. All that is required is loyalty and togetherness. While entering domestic life, what is demanded is not just loyalty and togetherness, but more than that. Here we have the responsibility, and each of us has its own role, and when we go through all that there must be little things that are not in accordance with our desires that can be the cause of the family quarrels.
To achieve a happy home life in accordance with our expectations and desires, there are some tips that we can do.
1. Get to know the character of the couple
If we have chosen someone to be a life partner, of course we already know the character of our partner. And of course we also know what is his pleasure and what will make him angry and unhappy. Here, we are enough to avoid things that will make him angry, so we can avoid problems that will arise.
2. Avoid clashing arguments
When there are disputes and quarrels, finish with a cold heart. Don’t keep answering each other, blaming each other and defending each other. Because this will make the atmosphere even hotter and will lead to a great fight, this can be one of the causes of divorce.
3. Be a patient person
Patience is the remedy for all problems faced. Patience also does not mean silence without doing anything. But try to be patient in dealing with the problem and find the best solution, do not obey the heart that is hot. If there are things that the couple doesn’t like in the house, don’t get angry immediately, it’s not clear, but try to discuss it carefully.
4. Don’t be selfish
Selfishness will not benefit in any way. Especially if taken into domestic life, this trait will only trigger discomfort in a relationship. Get rid of this nature not only thinking and being selfish, remember the interests of your spouse and family too.
5. Take a step to advance a thousand steps.
Succumbing does not mean losing. But here, succumb to achieving household happiness. Avoid the nature of not wanting to lose for family happiness. Don’t keep forcing your own will if your partner doesn’t want it.
6. Remember, “This is my family”
Realize that we have a family, we create and we have built it together. And we are the ones who determine what our family wants and what the future of our home life will be. Remembering it will definitely choose the best way to save the happiness of our household.
7. Provide free time for family
If you and your partner work together, arrange the right time to enjoy the day with your beloved family at least once a week. And once in a while, go on vacation to find new atmosphere and new things. No need to go to a far place, the most important thing is to be able to eliminate boredom because of the routine and can feel the moment of togetherness with family.
Those are some tips that can be tried and applied to foster and build a happy household that is definitely everyone’s dream. Indeed, in achieving happiness the path is not always easy and smooth, there is always something that is not in accordance with our wishes. That way we need to be wise in addressing various problems as a way of maintaining a household.